Helping Your Child Find Balance in their busy life →

As parents, we want our children to thrive but sometimes, we accidentally give them too much. Too many clubs, too many lessons, too much screen time, or even too much pressure to “succeed.” The result? Stressed-out children who don’t know how to stop, breathe, or just be. In fact they can feel inadequate if they are not constantly in action. Classrooms are places where children learn how to balance the day between work and play.

But balance is something we can teach. Home life can be built around balance for a child.

Consider:

Spot the Imbalance

Start by observing your child’s week. Are they always rushing from one thing to the next? Is there time in their day for:

• Rest?

• Play (the unstructured, silly, no-goal kind)?

• Movement?

• Stillness?

• Time with you?

How about introducing a nothing day. Here your child can be creative, be still or enjoy not being accountable.

Teach the “Juggle” with Jars

Children are visual. Try this at home:

• Take three jars. Label them Work, Play, and Rest.

• Give your child 10 marbles (or buttons).

• Ask them to drop the marbles into the jars to show how they spent their day.

Most children will drop them all into “Work” (school, homework, chores) and “Play” (devices, sports). "Rest" is often forgotten.

Talk about it:

What could go into the "Rest" jar? Reading a quiet book? Drawing? Sitting in the garden? You’ll be surprised how much this simple activity gets them thinking and talking.

Model the Balance

Children copy what they see. If you never rest, they won’t think it’s allowed. If you always check your phone while talking to them, they learn to do the same.

Try this:

• Announce you're going for a 10-minute walk “to reset your brain.”

• Sit with a cup of tea and say, “I need a moment of quiet today.”

• Say “no” to something and explain why.

It doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be real. Let them see how just being you is a comfortable space to live in.

Make “Bored” a Good Word

When your child says, “I’m bored,” don’t rush to fix it. Boredom is the starting block for being creative and problem-solving. Let them simply be bored for a while.

Example:

Jack (9) whined for half an hour that there was “nothing to do” one Sunday. His parents didn’t react. Ten minutes later, he’d turned the sofa into a pirate ship with a tea towel on his head.

Boredom worked. A child needs that kind of time to slow down their overthinking and just let it happen.

Balance Looks Different for Every Child

Some kids need quiet to recharge; others need movement. Some love a packed schedule; others melt under pressure. Every child is different and if you have more than one child I am sure you have noticed that already!

Ask regularly:

• “Are you enjoying what you’re doing?”

• “Is there something you’d like to do less of?”

• “Do you feel tired or happy at the end of the day?”

Make sure they are not trying to be overactive to simply prove how capable they are. You love them for just being them. This may mean that the pace is varied for different children in the family.

Balance is a Gift

Balance isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about giving our children the tools to check in with themselves, make choices, and build a life that works for them. It’s not just a childhood skill, it’s a life skill. When a child likes the balance in their life they can really savour different aspects of their world. For example, rest and recreation is as valuable as high level activity.