Finding Balance: Helping Your Child Thrive at School and at Home

Modern family life can feel like a juggling act. School timetables, homework, after-school activities, work commitments, meal prep, family time, it’s easy to feel stretched. For children, the pace can be just as overwhelming. That’s why finding balance between school and home is all about your child’s well-being.

Why Balance Matters

Children thrive when life feels predictable and calm. They need time to learn, play, rest, and connect. Without balance, they may become anxious, tired, or unmotivated.

1. Create a Rhythm, Not a Rigid Routine

Instead of trying to run your household like a military base, focus on rhythm. A flexible rhythm means meals happen at roughly the same time, there’s a set time for homework and bedtime is fairly consistent. It’s reliable but adaptable. Children feel secure when they know what to expect.

✅ Tip: Use a visual schedule at home to help younger children understand the flow of the day.

2. Set Reasonable Homework Expectations

Homework can quickly take over family life. While it’s important, it shouldn't become a daily battle. Keep sessions short, focused, and positive. If your child is tired or stuck, it’s okay to take a break or ask the teacher for support.

✅ Tip: A 10-minute wind-down or snack break after school can reset the brain before homework begins.

3. Protect Downtime Like a Treasure

Children need time to just “be.” Whether that’s lying on the floor drawing, building Lego castles, reading, or playing outside, this “free” time is where creativity, imagination, and emotional processing happen. Don’t overschedule your child with activities.

✅ Tip: Schedule one “empty” afternoon per week—no playdates, no homework pressure, just time to relax.

4. Be Present, Not Perfect

Your child doesn’t need a perfect home, they need a connected one. It’s easy to get caught up in logistics, but make room for small, meaningful moments: a cuddle, a walk, a laugh over dinner. These build emotional strength more than any structured activity.

✅ Tip: Choose one daily connection ritual, like bedtime stories, a shared breakfast, or a 5-minute chat after school.

5. Model Balance Yourself

Your child watches how you manage life. If you’re always rushing, scrolling, or stressed, they notice. Show them what it looks like to slow down, to rest, to enjoy moments. When you prioritize balance, they learn to do the same.

✅ Tip: Let your child see you reading a book, taking a walk, or saying “no” to too much.

Final Thought

Balance isn’t about perfection, it’s about harmony. There will be busy weeks and messy days, and that’s okay. What matters is creating a home where your child feels supported, where learning is respected, and where joy has space to bloom. When school and home are in balance, everyone feels more grounded and that’s a win for the whole family.

Helping Your Child Find Balance in their busy life

As parents, we want our children to thrive but sometimes, we accidentally give them too much. Too many clubs, too many lessons, too much screen time, or even too much pressure to “succeed.” The result? Stressed-out children who don’t know how to stop, breathe, or just be. In fact they can feel inadequate if they are not constantly in action. Classrooms are places where children learn how to balance the day between work and play.

But balance is something we can teach. Home life can be built around balance for a child.

Consider:

Spot the Imbalance

Start by observing your child’s week. Are they always rushing from one thing to the next? Is there time in their day for:

• Rest?

• Play (the unstructured, silly, no-goal kind)?

• Movement?

• Stillness?

• Time with you?

How about introducing a nothing day. Here your child can be creative, be still or enjoy not being accountable.

Teach the “Juggle” with Jars

Children are visual. Try this at home:

• Take three jars. Label them Work, Play, and Rest.

• Give your child 10 marbles (or buttons).

• Ask them to drop the marbles into the jars to show how they spent their day.

Most children will drop them all into “Work” (school, homework, chores) and “Play” (devices, sports). "Rest" is often forgotten.

Talk about it:

What could go into the "Rest" jar? Reading a quiet book? Drawing? Sitting in the garden? You’ll be surprised how much this simple activity gets them thinking and talking.

Model the Balance

Children copy what they see. If you never rest, they won’t think it’s allowed. If you always check your phone while talking to them, they learn to do the same.

Try this:

• Announce you're going for a 10-minute walk “to reset your brain.”

• Sit with a cup of tea and say, “I need a moment of quiet today.”

• Say “no” to something and explain why.

It doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be real. Let them see how just being you is a comfortable space to live in.

Make “Bored” a Good Word

When your child says, “I’m bored,” don’t rush to fix it. Boredom is the starting block for being creative and problem-solving. Let them simply be bored for a while.

Example:

Jack (9) whined for half an hour that there was “nothing to do” one Sunday. His parents didn’t react. Ten minutes later, he’d turned the sofa into a pirate ship with a tea towel on his head.

Boredom worked. A child needs that kind of time to slow down their overthinking and just let it happen.

Balance Looks Different for Every Child

Some kids need quiet to recharge; others need movement. Some love a packed schedule; others melt under pressure. Every child is different and if you have more than one child I am sure you have noticed that already!

Ask regularly:

• “Are you enjoying what you’re doing?”

• “Is there something you’d like to do less of?”

• “Do you feel tired or happy at the end of the day?”

Make sure they are not trying to be overactive to simply prove how capable they are. You love them for just being them. This may mean that the pace is varied for different children in the family.

Balance is a Gift

Balance isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about giving our children the tools to check in with themselves, make choices, and build a life that works for them. It’s not just a childhood skill, it’s a life skill. When a child likes the balance in their life they can really savour different aspects of their world. For example, rest and recreation is as valuable as high level activity.

Finding a happy balance for your child

We all lead busy lives. Sometimes those lives can consume us and we build into them more and more activities, jobs, special events, etc. It is in fact that our society rewards doing more and demonstrating that if you are a busy person, it is seen as success.

Our culture rewards and respects being busy. Of course, there is nothing wrong with busy. I would however, be recommending that you become conscious of the balance that you put into the week and this of course will flow over into your child’s perception of how a week should look.

 Finding balance is a gift you can give yourself and especially a lifelong gift for your child. Some people are automatically drawn to putting balance into their lives, for many of us it is a struggle, especially when more seems better. Remember that if you teach your child to have balance between work, home, school, friends, etc. they will want that gift for the rest of their life. They will not be drawn to excessive demands and they will reflect on the various choices they are making that give them balance and make them feel happy. Here you are awakening their consciousness about being a happier person.

Once a balanced person always a balance person.

Here are some ideas to teach your child that balance is the best way to live out the daily, weekly, experiences. True balance is built on a solid foundation.

• Show your child how you plan the week. Discuss why some things are chosen and others discarded. If you enjoy your recreation time show them how this is an important part of the week, one which is not compromised.

• Keep a chart on the fridge which highlights the week’s activities. Talk about how some things must stay but others can go if the balance is to be maintained.

• When you make a decision to let something go even though it was important, talk to your child about that action. Tell them that life can be flexible and can adjust to make for a balanced week.

• Talk about how the school week is set up and how the lessons are planned so that a balanced curriculum is the order of the day. Children love routine and feel very comfortable knowing what is planned for the week. This is a chance to talk about balance in the school setting.

• If something important comes up with your child, discuss how it would sit with the rest of the week’s plan. Will other activities need to change to keep the balance? What’s in their control? What is it that tips the balance?

• Teach your child to reflect on themselves and how some busy situations can make them unsettled. Can they change that and do they really know their priorities? This is all about understanding that they are individuals and don’t always have to go with the flow.

• Teach them that not everything is under our control. They need to learn what is in their control and what is not under their control.

• Mindfulness talks about living in the moment. Perhaps teaching our children how to enjoy the moments and not focus on building busy changeable lives.

• Some things are worth holding onto and others maybe not so. Invite conversations about what is necessary and what is disposable. This is all about finding balance that is controllable.

• Cooking with your child is an excellent way to talk about balance and how the best comes from the balance of ingredients.

• Building rituals into your life helps to strengthen the notion of balance in life. A ritual or routine is familiar, comfortable, predictable, manageable and in your total control.

Above all, be open in discussion about how maintaining a balanced life is a wonderful ideal and that in your life you strive to set goals to be as balanced as possible. Sometimes we fail but our plan is to try to maintain a balance so that you live a happier day, week, month etc.

‘Teaching our children to live a quiet, sane and balanced life is one of the most important parental tasks of our day’

- Brent L Top

Providing balance to your child’s life.

We all need balance in our life. The last few months have challenged families in how they provide such balance and how they keep the overall momentum and spirit of the family going.

Balance is all about ensuring that variation and some real difference comes into play. Having more of the same can be restrictive, tedious and does not give the child opportunities to think in alternative ways. It hinders the ability to process different information and to succeed through various channels. When you spent those long hours working with children on the computer during the home-schooling period, did you not crave letting loose and freeing up time to do other more relaxing activities?

Classrooms are all about providing a day’s activities that contain balanced activities with recreation, spare time, alternative activities etc. The variance stimulates a child to perform better. It’s like pressing a refresher button every so often.  It is all about encouraging children to change direction and process their thoughts differently. This is excellent for stretching the brain in different directions. It enables children to look forward to activities in which they know they can succeed.

The good news is that many of the activities we enjoyed before coronavirus lockdown have returned and so now, we can plan our week confident that we can provide some balance for the week.

Consider:

• Can the children return to sport?

• Are there new sports or outdoor activities they can join?

• Given the quality time you had together in lockdown such as riding bikes etc, can this still be part of your regime?

• Have you mapped out time for homework, time for family activities? Time for personal space etc?

• Are you able to hang onto some of those great family habits of sharing time together now that we are back to post covid normal?

Your child will be adjusting to school, home, reengaging with friends, etc. Keep an eye on the balance and as a family discuss what the week should look like for all family members.

We do not live in a perfect world and families strive to be the best but this will come with twists and turns. Those twists and turns are all about finding some balance especially when times get tough and a new alignment is needed to keep the family well orientated. Such alignment will need frequent upgrades every so often.

 Families are after all a work in constant progress.

“Restore balance. Most children have technology, school and extracurricular activities covered.
It’s time to add
A pinch of adventure
A sprinkle of sunshine
and a big handle of outdoor play.”

— Penny Whitehouse