Be excited for your child as they attend school each day
A school’s environment will have much to offer your child. This blog discusses the positive benefits you can expect from the school.
Imagine educating your child on your own! There is so much excitement and anticipation when your child starts school as they will be exposed to myriads of opportunities and challenges. You will journey through the school experience and together with your child enjoy the long and winding process together. You are in partnership with the school which sees you as a critical educator and contributor to your child’s education.
A school’s environment will have much to offer your child. Below are some very realistic outcomes that you can expect from the school.
Social Development: School is a place where children interact with peers and learn valuable social skills like sharing, cooperation, and making friends. Parents can be happy about their child's chance to develop important social relationships. Their ability to make friends, keep them and practice the art of good communication comes from the school setting. Such an environment enlivens your child’s emotional and social growth. They learn a lot about self-esteem by studying their peers.
Independence and Responsibility: School teaches children to become more independent and responsible for their actions. Parents can look forward to seeing their child grow in maturity and self-sufficiency as they take on new responsibilities. A school will support the work you do in teaching your child all about being responsible. Teachers work hard to encourage independence in learning and set expectations and goals for your child.
Broadening Horizons: School exposes children to a wide range of subjects, ideas, and experiences that they may not encounter at home. Parents can be excited about the opportunity for their child to explore different interests and broaden their horizons. You cannot do everything. A school presents topics that can be discussed openly and challenges your child to think differently. The setting of a school sets the scene for healthy, vibrant conversation. It encourages your child to think differently.
Emotional and Cognitive Development: School not only focuses on academic learning but also on emotional and cognitive development. Parents can be happy knowing that their child will receive guidance and support in developing important life skills and emotional intelligence. As your child grows, the school will set social and emotional expectations to match their age and learning. It will challenge your child in different ways to enrich their emotional intelligence.
Future Opportunities: A good education lays the foundation for future opportunities and success. Parents can feel excited about the doors that may open for their child as they progress through their educational journey. Who knows what your child will do and become after they leave school? The excitement is to watch how school broadens their thinking and expectations. You are not alone in preparing them for life.
In summary, school offers children a host of benefits, from educational and social growth to independence and future opportunities, which can make parents excited and happy about their child's educational journey. So be happy when you send them off to school. Understand that school will be a setting to parallel all the good work that you do through parenting.
“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.’’Einstein.
The Life giving Power of Politeness: Why Teaching Good Manners Boosts Your Child's Education!
Read about how politeness and manners are so important to implement in your child's upbringing.
In all my years as Principal and in my experience as a teacher, polite children always won the day! Such children are often popular because they speak well of others and provide no threat. They attract attention because their politeness is attractive and creates an illusion that they are in control of people who use intelligence as their main vehicle of communication. It is quite amazing how a polite child is so valued and attractive to others.
Here are five ideas to demonstrate how teaching good manners is effective and beneficial to the child, especially when taught by the parents.
Social Skills for Success: Good manners lay the foundation for positive social interactions, enabling children to build strong relationships with peers and adults alike. Polite children tend to be more confident in social settings, making them more approachable, likeable, and adept at resolving conflicts. These essential social skills pave the way for better academic collaboration and extracurricular involvement, fostering a well-rounded education. Never underestimate how politeness can make a child a lot happier socially.
Improved Communication Skills: Teaching children good manners involves emphasising active listening, respectful communication, and empathy. These skills not only improve their ability to express themselves effectively but also foster a deeper understanding of others' perspectives. As a result, children become more articulate and empathetic communicators, which bolsters their academic performance, participation in class discussions, and presentation abilities. A child with strong communication skills is a much more confident child
Positive Classroom Environment: When children practice good manners, they contribute to creating a positive and respectful classroom environment. Polite behaviour encourages cooperation, teamwork, and a sense of community, promoting a conducive atmosphere for learning and academic growth. Teachers can focus more on teaching, and students can concentrate better on their studies when the classroom is characterised by courtesy and mutual respect. By being polite, the quality of the learning environment improves. Children listen and hear better when the atmosphere is respectful.
Developing Emotional Intelligence: Good manners are closely linked to emotional intelligence—the ability to recognise and manage emotions, both in oneself and others. Children who are taught good manners are more likely to be emotionally aware and capable of handling stress and frustrations constructively. They read the signs very well. Emotional intelligence positively impacts their academic performance by improving their self-regulation, problem-solving skills, and resilience in the face of challenges. There is considerable self discipline demonstrated through politeness and this feeds into improved emotional intelligence. There is more interest in being grateful than feeling entitled.
Preparation for Future Success: Beyond the classroom, good manners are essential in preparing children for future success in their personal and professional lives. Employers often seek candidates with strong interpersonal skills and a respectful demeanour, making good manners a valuable asset in the job market. Additionally, individuals who practice good manners are more likely to cultivate supportive networks, mentorship, and opportunities throughout their lives. It’s as though in this ever-changing world, instilling good manners in your child's upbringing is a life giving investment that not only improves their education but also nurtures their overall growth and success. We could easily say that politeness is a measure of success in a world that can easily spin out of control.
As the parent, demonstrate through your own life how politeness has served you well. If a child comes from a family where politeness is valued, it then stands to reason that they will comfortably and confidently adopt that model.
‘Better good manners than good looks.’
-Proverbs
Friendships are important in your child’s life
Friendships are essential for a child’s development and social skills. Here are some things to consider when your children are creating friendships.
I am certain that a social anthropologists would tell us that somewhere back in the cave man era, man grew the desire, perhaps need, to develop friendship. Coming out of their cave and socialising would have been yet another important step in mankind’s evolution.
We all need friendship and we need to have the ability to connect with others. We do not need, nor were we ever designed to live in isolation. It must now be part of our DNA. Children at school age start to develop friendships where they gradually develop a sense of belonging. This process begins at birth. It is a slow, steady process and for each child, the journey will be different.
There is so much to say about the value and necessity of the child developing friendship. Within each relationship there is so much about themselves they learn and this will come with some pain and glory. A child learns much about developing resilience, becoming intuitive and above all, goes through the rigour of developing emotional intelligence all through the journey of forming and sustaining friends.
As parents, we have a very special role to support them in their evolving understanding and development of friendships.
Here a few thoughts to give us direction in this critical guiding role:
Remember, your child’s friends are not your friends. Sometimes we can show our disapproval of who they bring home or who they befriend. In subtle ways we can say and do things that worry your child about the friends they enjoy. This can make them doubt their own judgement.
Your child will meet friends and move on after time with some of those friendships. Accept that they need to be the one who judges the worth of their friends. This can sometimes come with pain but that is how they build resilience and grow wiser in making suitable choices.
Support their friendships by getting to know their friends. Be interested in them and organise play dates to support the friendships.
When you see friendship troubles brewing, simply remind them about social cues and listen to their concerns. Once again, remember they are not your friends nor is it your responsibility to sort out their concerns.
As a child builds friends and they go through the rigour of the ups and downs, they will learn about empathy and altruism. They will discover many emotions through their friends and will be introduced to other ways of viewing the world. Be open and listen to what they say. Take care not to shut them down too quickly. They expect to learn from their friends. It’s natural.
Watch and learn how your child plays and socialises. This will help you fit into their world with ease. You will understand them more by watching their games, chats etc.
Model positive social behaviour. Let them know and see that developing your own friends is important for your social world.
Affirm your child when they show initiative in approaching others to develop friendships. For anxious children, this can be a very difficult step to take.
All of your children will approach friendship differently. One child may be incredibly gregarious and would like everyone in the class to be their friend. Another child is perhaps more reserved and may be happy with just one or two close friends. Accept that the needs are different for each child. Celebrate their differences in this way.
Children gain amazing opportunities from joining activity groups and through organised sport. Even if they are not great communicators themselves, sport takes care of that as they become an active team player.
Respect the fact that a loss of friendship can be quite devastating for a while. Often girls can harbour upset feelings for a long time. They don’t seem to forget their hurt easily. Generally, boys will get angry and blame the other person for the breakdown. Sometimes a quick fight sorts it out. Either way be a good listener and understand that a loss of friendship can take a while to heal. They need space to grieve and heal.
Play is a very large part of how children connect from infancy. From an early age involve your child in playgroups, friendship meetings with other parents etc. From a very early age, your child needs to be playing alongside other children, which will ultimately lead to social connections. In these settings they learn to control negative emotions and begin to recognise other people’s emotions. At first they simply play alongside each other, but after a while they need to make connections and that is when it all begins.
Your child learns to be more social, through your loving disposition, warmth and positive way of disciplining your child. Parenting in a punitive way will only delay a child’s ability to effectively socialise. Strict discipline lowers a child’s self confidence which retards their ability to socialise effectively.
Socially anxious children need parenting that is sensitive and positive. Through your gentle support and encouragement in a safe and happy environment that encourages social engagement, friendships will develop. Here they will need plenty of trust and reassurance around them.
‘Childhood friendships are timeless treasures of the heart.’
- Proud Happy Mama