Six gentle ideas that really help an anxious child begin school
1. Practice the routine early
Do a few “school mornings” before term starts: wake up, get dressed, have breakfast, so nothing feels rushed or unfamiliar.
2. Name the worry, don’t rush it away
Say, “It looks like school feels a bit scary right now” — feeling understood often calms anxiety faster than reassurance alone.
3. Create a small goodbye ritual
A wave, a hug, or a special phrase gives your child something predictable and comforting at drop-off.
4. Focus on one safe thing
Help them choose one thing to look forward to. It could be seeing a friend, a favourite activity, or their teacher’s smile.
5. Keep explanations short and calm
Long talks can increase worry. Simple, confident sentences work best: “I’ll be back after school.”
6. Celebrate brave steps, not perfection
Praise effort: “You went in even though you felt nervous, that was brave.” Small wins build confidence quickly.
“You’re braver that you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter that you think.”